The New York Times, Modern Love: “Goodbye, My Fantasy Man”

I wasn’t willing to settle for less than kismet. But chasing a romantic illusion nearly kept me from finding love.

Lavinia Spalding

I wasn’t willing to settle for less than kismet. But chasing a romantic illusion nearly kept me from finding love.

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The night I agreed to try online dating, I told my roommate Meghan I hoped I wouldn’t meet anyone because that wasn’t the kind of story I wanted to tell.

“I know myself,” I said. “Anything short of kismet won’t work.”

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